Single-parent kids aren’t ‘malnourished’ but if we don’t need both mum and dad, why have families?
It might be impolitic to tell the growing number of children being raised in single-sex households that they are missing out on essential nutrients, as the Hollywood actor did in a now-deleted tweet. Indeed, many single-parent – or grandparent, or a gay couple - households are much more loving than those of dysfunctional couples bringing up their own kid.
But to pretend that Crews is advocating something radical is to ignore the dominant social unit that has survived through different cultures and millennia of change. Two-parent, mixed-gender households were never the only way, but all other things being equal, they are still implicitly considered the best-case scenario for a child's social and psychological development.
First of all, just as there are children who are neither girls or boys, there are parents who are neither mothers or fathers. It's 2019.— Ijeoma Oluo (@IjeomaOluo) March 4, 2019
Terry Crews clearly doesn't have the range to discuss the issues he keeps injecting himself into but he's so wrapped up in the idea of being a relevant voice he can't see how dumb he makes himself look.— Kingsbridge Alumni 🇳🇬 (@Bang4UrBuk) March 4, 2019
Hi @terrycrews,— Amanda Jette Knox (@MavenOfMayhem) March 3, 2019
My wife & I have 4 kids. We love & support them in everything they do.
Our kids are not “malnourished” because they don’t have a dad. However, they certainly would be if they grew up in a home where authenticity & love were stifled.🏳️🌈
Me:— terry crews (@terrycrews) March 4, 2019
Human beings need exercise.#Woke Twitter:
FUCK you! I don’t exercise! I have NEVER exercised and I’m fine! My kids CAN’T exercise because they were hurt so now you’re mocking them! I demand you take that back and apologize! Terry Crews do better.
Also me: pic.twitter.com/zUNX6aROOm
If we say that Crews is merely holding on to a historical status quo, then there is no special value in traditional family units. They are just arrangements that might as well be for sex, entertainment or saving on rent. From this it also follows that it wouldn’t matter if the child were brought up by two parents, or by one, or by three, or by his older sister, or by a harem, or by strangers in a commune, or by dad’s buddies from the fantasy football league. After all, they are are, apparently, capable of giving love and serving as role models.
We are also telling African-American fathers – the original context of this discussion online – a group already statistically far more likely to leave their families, that what they are doing is fine, as they are not at all essential for the child anyway.
Is this what Crews' critics really believe, and will they defend their views as vigorously as they attacked his?