#StopRapeEducate activist liveblogs rape in South Africa
Amour began #StopRapeEducate a year ago after being raped in New York and was on an awareness world tour when the latest attack occurred. She posted “I honestly never thought it would happen to me again, and certainly not during the #StopRapeEducate World Tour...”
@stoprapeeducate, we've come so far. I started this organization after getting raped last year in NYC and I honestly never thought it would happen to me again, and certainly not during the #StopRapeEducate World Tour.... There's a smile on my face in this photo but my heart is broken because tomorrow I'm supposed to leave to continue the tour in Australia, New Caledonia, Los Angeles, and San Francisco but I unfortunately have to stay here in South Africa to put the man who raped me behind bars. I know that people around the world are counting on me and I'm sorry to disappoint. I do know, however, that this is an opportunity for us to grow even stronger as a community, to own our power, and radiate self-love as depicted in this picture. Thank you ALL for being so supportive! We shall overcome. We can do anything. We are infinite! ⭐️ Go follow @natnatperez the woman behind the camera a fabulous feminist photographer. 💚💕💚💕💚💕💚💕💚💕💚💕💚💕💚💕💚💕💚💕💚 #StopRapeEducate #ambertheactivist #AmberAmour #feminism #feminist #womensrights #humanrights #equality #queer #model #modeling #SouthAfrica #girlswithdreads #loveandlight #love #selflove #namaste #art #CapeTown #bodypositive #girlpower #girlboss #overcome #survivor #peace #happyhippie #positivity #revolution
She also posted a picture with the alleged attacker taken a week previously.
“I did my first@stoprapeeducate chalk art piece in Cape Town with the man who would rape me one week later. It's a shame because I honestly thought he was cute.”
I did my first @stoprapeeducate chalk art piece in Cape Town with the man who would rape me one week later. It's a shame because I honestly thought he was cute. As he attacked me I said to him, "I liked you, it doesn't have to happen like this." I still can't believe it but I'm grateful that it has given me a new sense of direction and has drawn us closer as a community. Sometimes life throws shit your way and you just have to make the best of it. Love you all so very, very much. #StopRapeEducate #AmberAmour #AmberTheActivist #SouthAfrica #CapeTown #strength
While many continue to show their support, Amour highlighted others who accuse her of setting it up.
Victimblaming 101: DOCUMENTING THE CRIME DOES NOT MEAN YOU "SET IT UP." It's important to get evidence of the crime scene, scrapes or bruises, and to take a picture of your distress. This will help you in a court of law. This girl needs to be educated on what victimblaming is. Implying that my story is false just because I was so openly honest with the world is just ridiculous. So done with these victimblamers! 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 #StopRapeEducate #awareness #education #consent #feminist #feminism #rapeculture #victimblaming #yesallwomen #heforshe #law #justice #compassion #overcome #humanrights #peaceandlove
She describes the events leading to the alleged rape as she went to take a shower in the hostel.
It was only a few minutes ago but sometimes these things happen so fast it's hard to remember all the details.... I've been sick for the past 2 days and today was my first day out. I went back to my old hostel to leave a note for a friend, Nick. There was another guy there, Shakir, who was desperately trying to get with me. I kissed him once but he seemed drunk so I told him it was bad timing, I had already met someone. Before heading out, I went upstairs to say hi to one more friend, Clyde from the states. Shakir followed me upstairs and said he was going to take a shower. He invited me to join. I said yes because the water at my current hostel is pretty cold and after 2 days of being sick, I just really wanted a hot shower. As soon as I got in the bathroom, he forced me to my knees. I said "stop!" but he just got more violent. He lifted me up and put his penis in my vagina. I asked him to stop, again, as I began to cry. When he shoved it in my ass, that's when I passed out. I woke up a few minutes later and saw him trying to creep out the door. When he saw that I was awake, he came back to finish me off in the shower. I have all those fucked up feelings that we get after rape...shame, disgust, suffering. I'm here, alone, and any DNA has been wiped away in the shower. The South African police will just roll their eyes when I walk in. Feeling sicker than ever now. Needless today, I'm going to disappear for a bit. Just need to enjoy the freaking sun and call my friends and family in the states. Love you guys. Thank you for always being there for me. All the more reason to continue @stoprapeeducate but not today. Today, I need rest. #StopRapeEducate
Amour says she was forced to her knees as soon as she entered the bathroom. “I said "stop!" but he just got more violent. He lifted me up and put his penis in my vagina. I asked him to stop, again, as I began to cry.”
The next Instagram post detailed her decision to find justice.
“Dealing with cops is tough and the rape kit is the last thing I want - tools and metal instruments and combs all up in my private parts.... But this is what I stand for. I tell you guys to speak up every single day and I know that I need to practice what I preach.”
My view of the rape kit. Thank you all for being so loving & supportive during this time. Your messages pushed me to take action and to stand up for myself and for all rape survivors. For those who wish to BLAME ME or any other survivor out there, I want you to know that you are the very reason that I am so brutally honest. I could have hidden details. I could have kept some info to myself, but NO. You need to know the truth and to see the reality of the situation. No matter what a person does, it is not an invitation for rape. It doesn't matter if I kissed him. It doesn't matter if he was drunk. It doesn't matter if I said yes to a shower. I never said he could get violent with me. I never said he could make me bleed. I never said he could rape me. But still, that's how the scene went down. I don't need to explain myself but if you're wondering WHY I took a shower with him, it was written in the text, I'd been sick with food poisoning for 2 days and needed to sweat it out. My current place of residence has only cold water (third world problems are real!) and it seemed like a miracle to be offered a hot shower. That's not what he was there for though, because as soon as he got a chance, he threw me to the ground and had his way. Dealing with rape is hard enough but the aftermath is often even more traumatic but I did this for you and I did this for me. The US Embassy and the South African police are super supportive and he may be arrested as soon as this week. Thank you for the love. And for the victim blamers, I send love, peace, and enlightenment to you so that you may be a beacon of light for us, too. #StopRapeEducate #AmberAmour #AmberTheActivist #SouthAfrica #humanitarian #healing #education #africa #survivor #sexualassault #recovery #victimblaming #overcome #rapeculture #staystrong
Amour is still in South Africa, where an estimated 500,000 rapes occur each year, and as few as one in 13 are reported. She continues to campaign to create a culture of consent.