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Published: 26 July, 2011, 08:35

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When it comes to the dating game in Russia, it really is a man's world. There are 10 million more women than men in the country, forcing some to turn to unconventional methods to find love. Even if that means a sharing and compromise.

Andrey is a father of three. And a husband of three. Eleven years ago, Andrey got married. Two years on he proposed again. And then again.

His reasoning is simple: “Why should I refuse any of them if I love them all?”

They may not be a four-member family from a legal standpoint, since it the law has no place for polygamous marriages, but in all other regards they live as one.

The country’s demographic is on Andrey's side. The shortage of males leads to the need for sharing – a concept that Andrey's wives say they have made peace with.

“I thought he was kidding. But then I realized that he wasn’t. I never expected something like this happening to me, but we’ve all got used to it, you know. If you love – you’ll understand. We never fight for Andrey, never quarrel; there is no any kind of competition either,” says Olesya, Andrey’s first wife.

Andrey considers himself an ardent Christian, yet two of his wives were brought up Muslims. The distribution of duties and conjugal delights within the household also lies in the Islamic traditions.

“I make them all feel equal. If one wants me to buy her something, I will, but I’ll buy something of the same price for the other two as well. I’ve built them three houses and bought three apartments. That’s fair, isn’t it?” Andrey says.

As extraordinary as it seems, Andrey's example is not that rare in Russia. Many men are in relationships with several women at a time. Of course, most keep their extramarital affairs secret.

“This may look strange, I agree, but we consider it better to be a second or third wife rather than think you are the only one, and be bitterly mistaken,” says Elena, Andrey’s second wife.

The scarcity of men is also put down to their propensity to engage in what is described as unhealthy behavior. Alcoholism and reckless driving is chipping away at the country's gene pool.

The pressure to grab for a chance to tie the knot gets higher with age. According to a recent poll, in Russia for every single man over 30 there are dozens of single women still on the lookout for their prince.

With women's search for true love becoming even more statistically challenging, no wonder eyes are wandering abroad, and the From Russia with Love mantra is still going strong.

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JuanitoN July 30, 2011, 18:19
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The high proportion of abortions in Russia reflects a cultural approach to terminating a pregnancy that merely offering financial incentives or new penalties will not solve. It will only created further reason for Russian women to leave the country and a deepening loss of population. Russia's most capable young adults are emigrating in huge numbers. Russian women are marrying foreigners in huge numbers, reflecting the womens' rejection of Russian men. The high rate of abortions in Russia only reflects a suite of social issues that must be addressed by many more people than just the Russian Presidency. Medvedev may know about high-tech, but not so much about women. 

herman July 29, 2011, 09:59
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No, abortion is genocide in Russia.....when women use it as contraception it should be limited. Period. Anyone who doesnt think Russia will cease to exist in 30-50 yrs is delusional. 

Citizen K July 29, 2011, 05:19
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JuanitoN I am bit baffled because it seems you think that massive incidents of reckless deaths and bad lifestyle of Russian men is good the overall population gene pool. You do also seem to be suggesting that abortion on demand is a matter of human rights.. Do not get me wrong- I do think women should have the right to abortion.. but why when other options are brought on the table-such as maternity capital- or adoption —those in the West see red- the denial of women’s rights in Russia? I think the West by and large wants to see the shrinking of Russia’s demography and they were sure under Yeltsin this was happening fast and quickly but now things are changing and Russians no longer look to at the future with bleakness. Canada is the second largest country in the world and it has mere 34M people. I think Canada needs to increase its population massively by among other things giving women financial incentives to want have babies and more babies. Abortion on demand is morally wrong. Abortion must be the last option not the first option.